Dear Sparkly Unicorn Friends,
Do you sometimes suffer from existential angst? Do you wonder if you’re reaching your full potential? Do you do something every day that brings you joy? What do you dream about? Early retirement? Cruising in the Caribbean? Starting a family? Joining a roller derby team? Running away to be a tambourine girl for Jim Cuddy? (Wait. That’s probably just me.)
I have a dear friend (and distant cousin) who takes stock of her life at each birthday. What has she achieved in the past year? Where does she want to go in the next year? As for me, on my big day, I just eat cake. (With buttercream icing, thanks very much.) I’m not good at pondering life’s big questions at the best of times. Give me the option of considering whether my five-year plan is still viable or eating cake while scrolling through my birthday wishes on Facebook, and the latter choice wins every time. Because. Cake. And also: I don’t have a five-year plan. I don’t even have a five-DAY plan.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I’ve heard. Whatevs.
I don’t feel like my life is a study in mediocrity, due to a lack of goals of planning. Nor do I feel like I’m stuck in a rut. Still, I could probably use some direction. Am I living my best life to the fullest? Do I have untapped potential? Do I have to take tambourine lessons to join Jim’s band, or can I just *ahem* shake it?
Maybe I should think about these things.
The fine folks at wellcat.com encourage ALL of us to think about these things.And, in fact, they created “Evaluate Your Life Day” for this reason. The occasion is celebrated annually on October 19. (Which means I can limit the deep questions on my own December birthday to: “Which buttercream icing tastes best on chocolate cupcakes? Chocolate, cherry, or mint?”)
What’s the Point?
Don’t ask me. I’m a newbie with this philosophical stuff. Oh. Wait. Right. The point of “Evaluate Your Life Day.” THAT, I can help you with.
Taking some time to evaluate your life can provide a lot of clarity. It can help you identify things that you would like to change or improve. It can also provide a chance to pat yourself on the back and realize that there are things you are already happy with.
Evaluating your life can also help you articulate your dreams. Sometimes dreams are so big and seem so unfathomable that they can be difficult to verbalize. But articulating your dreams can help you understand and refine them. Is my dream about being a tambourine girl for Jim Cuddy actually about running away from my current life? Or, is it about being brave enough to get up on stage? Or, is it about traveling to more Jim Cuddy shows? Once we articulate and finesse our dreams, we can start working on goals to achieve them. And who wouldn’t want to live out their wildest dreams?
Sasha Graffagna at SuperheroYou explains that when you evaluate your life you can then transform yourself “physically, mentally, and spiritually … using your newfound knowledge to make the world a better place.” Sounds pretty amazing, doesn’t it?
The ONE Question to Start With
There are a ton of possible questions to ask during this exercise. But one has the power to unlock all kinds of insights and to give voice to your dreams.
A number of bloggers, including Sasha Graffagna, Shawn Lim over at Stunning Motivation, and Rosalie Bardo at Elite Daily suggest imagining that today is your last day on earth. The question then is two-fold. First, how would you want to spend your last day? And, second, what will be your legacy? What do you want to be known for? What will people say about you once you’re gone?
This set of questions would bring up a lot of other things for me to consider, like:
Other Questions to Consider
There are a ton of websites and blogs with suggestions on how to evaluate your life. Take some time. Google them up. Find the questions that resonate with you. Some of the questions that I would love to reflect on are:
How to Explore your Questions
You had to ask? Pfft. Break out your writing journal.
Writing in a lined journal or personal diary will help you delve deeply into this exercise. As I explained in a past blog, personal journals “provide a safe space where we can express ourselves openly and honestly, without fear of judgment. They give us a place to say those things that we would struggle to put into words or have difficulty saying.”
Choose a question to focus on and then practice stream of consciousness writing. Don’t censor your answers. Don’t make corrections. Don’t worry about spelling and grammar. Just write freely in your lined journal. This style of writing is proven to help self-awareness and provide clarity.
If you’re getting bogged down and beating yourself up over things that have gone wrong and dreams that are still unfulfilled, try writing yourself a letter instead. Pretend you’re writing that letter to a friend. Writing in this manner can help you be more objective, non-judgmental, and compassionate towards yourself.
Whatever tack you take, it’s important to write. As Kent Healy points out at The Uncommon Life:
passively thinking is not the same as writing. Retention, creativity, and engagement is higher when physical activity is required. [Y]our notes will serve as a map and source of inspiration for the duration of the year. And [also], your notes will be important to review when looking back on the year.
So, you know what you’re happy with, what you want to change, and what your dreams are. Good job! But: how do you start the ball rolling towards a better life?
One suggestion: use a vision board journal. In a terrific piece over at Goddess Provisions, Kristen Hess explains:
Putting energy into a vision board will not only help you get crystal clear on what you want to create in your life but will also make your dreams become more actionable. … Having a visual reminder will help you stay focused and your vision board will also act as a benchmark for which you can measure your progress.
I have never used an actual vision board myself, but I have had a vision board journal for years. I like how easily new dreams and goals can be added. I have one page for different themes: places to travel, bucket list items, financial goals, health goals, etc. I like the privacy of it and how easy it is to tuck it away when need be. It’s also easier to flip back through it and see the progress that you’ve made. And finally, as Kristen points out, it’s highly portable.
So there you have it. That, my sassy cool cats, is how you evaluate your life. And for this sparkly unicorn right here, I think I’m gonna give it a whirl on Evaluate Your Life Day. But, first: cake. With buttercream icing.
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There are a bunch of reasons why I love using a personal journal for my vision boards:
Hygge is about making the ordinary special, by practicing mindfulness and by ritualizing everyday activities. It’s also about creating a feeling of coziness, by restricting the amount of empty space around a person or group of people. The end result is a feeling of contentedness.
When you think about it, journaling is all about hygge.